When you ask the question "Do you take dating/relationship advice from single people," I'm almost certain of the response. Many people say something to the effect of "heck no, if you can't maintain a relationship of your own how could you possibly help me." I completely get it, but is it possible that we could be looking at this all wrong?
It wasn't until after the breakup that I realized the issue wasn't him, it was me. It still baffles me that I didn't receive this clarity until it was too late. I guess I was able to see more clearly once outside of the relationship.
So here's how I figured out that I was the problem. After the split, I recounted some of the arguments we had and from that I learned that they really did stem from a place of insecurity on my part (I was in denial at first, smh). My behavior totally mirrored that of someone who was full of doubt and lacked confidence. Unfortunately, this really had an impact.
The following 3 signs helped me to accept that I indeed was the issue and not him. If these things sound too familiar to you, now is the time to take action, it could help save your relationship.
I think it's safe to say that dating is definitely different than it used to be. There's a lot of room left for misunderstanding and uncertainty. For some reason people feel compelled to live by the unwritten rules that society has created. The process of getting to know people and building connections is one that is personal and unique to every situation. Unfortunately, the world in which we live likes to put us in a box.